Comments on: Confessions of a Committed Diva

By: Rashana

Rashana — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 02:30:05 +0000

Thank you all for leaving comments! I soooo appreciate your feedback. I apologize for responding so late. I promise I will do better with getting back to you promptly!

Devone – I know it gets fustrating but please don’t give up. Take your time and practice the qualities of trust, honesty and communication. It works..

Jeniece – Yes I get the “you have a man..so shut up” comments all the time. I just brush it off and remind them that I was single once and did something right to land this great man so take heed to what I have to say – lol

By: Tamika

Tamika — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 13:57:39 +0000

Wonderful post! I am married and I can so relate to your point of view—on point!

By: Asia

Asia — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:33:28 +0000

This is a view of life I needed to read. I’m a single woman who is tired of the dating world who has a friend/roomate who is taken. We are in two different worlds she is in love and I am single…So I appreciate the post.

By: Jeniece

Jeniece — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 01:33:39 +0000

Rashana,

This article is so on point! I can totally understand your feeling like an outside; for a long time I felt that way as well. I too felt like the relationship ambassador, but lately I’ve been getting the feeling that my girls don’t think I can comment or have a valid opinion on anything relating to dating, other than being in a relationship, because I’ve been “out of the game” for so long. Do you get that as well?

By: Arlice Nichole

Arlice Nichole — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 00:36:16 +0000

I married my high school sweetheart while we were in college 10 years ago. I was 21 and he was 20. Though we agree we would not change a thing, we also agree that we married a little too young. It’s has worked out for the best, but I don’t believe at that time that we were full-grown adults mentally.

By: Devone Henry

Devone Henry — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 00:00:28 +0000

Hi Rashana,

I love your article. You’re absolutely correct in terms of not always about being “in- love”, but respecting each other thoughts and soul. Once the courtship and relationship begins the respect is there, but after a while it dissipate. Due to the fact the trust factor has totally gone out of the window. I have been two meaningful relationships of which, I have produce two beautiful children to the women that I once loved. We have lost the communication, happiness, compromise and trust for reason we have created. I have learned over the years that communication, understanding, and to value each other is the key to remaining and keeping the relationship intact; the key to hold on and trust the relationship with communication and open sensitive heart again without judging.
I myself have been on to many dates and found women whom had a hard time trusting men, and their background, due to their past relationship; which I call the “caution factor”. Yes, we are all caution and we find ourselves within the caution factor. We have a “set criterion” for ourselves and hopefully a prince/princess will be at the door. This is living in the non-reality world, because our criterion is over weighted by our emotions and cautions. So therefore, when I am on a date; I find myself defending my past relationships. After the date I find myself frustrated and disorientated not wanting to pursue a courtship or even date again.

Regards,
Devone Henry